challenges. People have opinions on what a mother should or should not do. Five people on the right will be suggesting one thing while five on the left suggest the complete opposite. Hey I’m all for being teachable, but if you see a mom that prefers to do her mommy thing differently than you, you can’t force her to do what you would do as a mom. Every woman is made to mother in a unique way because her child is also uniquely made and different from yours. Each mom has her own style. Being welcomed into motherhood isn’t meant to be like entering into a competition.
Moms need to support and respect each other, even in their differences of opinion. I’m happy that I’ve witnessed this within the mom community, but unfortunately I’ve also seen the mom shaming and gossiping too. One mama may allow her kid to eat a couple more sweets than the other mama allows her child to. Some moms may write “From Santa” on the Christmas presents while the other mom doesn’t do Santa at all. One day little Josh may have a lunchable that came with a KitKat bar and sugary drink while little Billy has a star shaped turkey sandwich, veggies and water in his lunch box. One mom may not want anything to do with breastfeeding while the other mom’s goal is to breastfeed a whole year. Do what YOUR mama heart is telling you to do. What works for one mother and child may not work for another. In motherhood I really need to lean on God because he knows the best things for me to do since he created me to mother this little person. The list of things some moms prefer and don’t prefer could go on and on and on. No matter what each mom chooses, one mom isn’t better or worse than the other because of their different styles. Anyone could share the same tittle, but can’t exactly match who you are as a person. The same goes for the role of “mommy.”
The whole point is we got to let mamas do their mama thang. We should be encouraging each other to listen to those mommy instincts even if that other mom isn’t taking the same route you take. Once again in no way am I saying I’m not seeing this in the mom community, because I do see the good. I’ve also seen mothers give really great advice in loving and caring ways. Sadly, I’ve also seen the negative side as well, which has caused me to want to say: We fellow mamas need to stick to showing grace because there is no such thing as the perfect mama. Truthfully I’m over here just winging it with Jesus, coffee and piles of laundry by my side.