Comparing lives on social media has become
an issue. One thing I can say is that I get it! I’ve found myself feeling like I wasn’t good enough because I’d see someone else’s”perfect life” in squared photos. At least that’s what I thought. People compare body image, talents and the roles they play in life.
What’s interesting is how we will compare our lives to others we barely know. Here are a few things I’ve learned.
What I want you to know:
- It’s just a picture. That’s all you’re seeing. There may even be a caption to go along with it that you also use to compare yourself to. Maybe they wrote something creative or shared how far along they’ve come in their fitness journey and now you feel inadequate. You see that photo but you don’t see the other things going on in their life. There’s a good chance you don’t even know their background, full story or personally struggles they face.
2. You may share similar talents/interest with someone else or think too many people are already doing what you do. That may intimidate you, so you feel like doing your thing is pointless. That’s never the mind set you want to end up in because it keeps you from staying in your own lane. By no means are we to look like anyone else. Work what you do in the unique way nobody else can. Other people’s succeeding doesn’t mean we are failing.
Christine Cane once said: ” My concern is that our generation will miss its destiny because they are too busy scrolling through everyone else’s”
3. Our self-worth doesn’t come from a perception of how people see us, but how God sees us. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the social media comparisons. Those distractions are things that don’t even truly matter. The truth is: you’re a purposed, beautiful, and deeply loved child of God. Looking at someone else through a screen should have no part in defining you.
4. I believe people can get selfish. What I mean is the focus can turn into “all about me” that takes away from being truly happy for others. I saw a quote the other day that said: “Cheer for people. There is enough sun for everyone.” But sometimes jealously doesn’t like the sun shining on others who are succeeding. You aren’t stopping anyone else’s destiny, so why not choose to: uplift, support and clap for them.
5. There is a circle of envy that stems from comparison. If you envy a person online I wouldn’t be surprised if someone was doing the same thing when they look at you. It’s said that we are usually our own worst critics, so you may have a hard time seeing the awesomeness others see in you .While you’re envying Nancy, Nancy is envying Sally and Sally is envying Carol while Carol is envying Nancy and Nancy is also envying you back. Envy makes the heart sick. Jealousy is cancer to the bones. We aren’t made to wish what others have, but to be thankful and find our identity in Christ.
In a world full of billions of people who have existed there is only one you. That matters. It’s a pretty big deal actually. You were born at the time you were for a reason. We can’t miss the mark here. That talent you carry is meant to be used for God’s glory. When we put Jesus before us our perspective changes. We don’t see others as threats or the use our gift as being pointless, we just use it. We do what God asks us to do because we see the bigger picture. Comparison is proof that we make it about us and not Him. We are to be building up His kingdom, not our own kingdom.