Have you ever been scrolling through social media then thoughts would pop up that caused you to compare yourself to all the posts you were seeing?
If your answer is yes I can relate. I’ve found myself feeling like I wasn’t good enough because I’d see someone else’s “perfect life”on social media. At least that’s what I thought. People compare body image, talents and their lifestyles.
What’s interesting is how we will compare our lives to others we barely know. Here are a few things I’ve learned.
What I want you to know:
- It’s just a picture. That’s all you’re seeing. There may even be a caption to go along with it that you use to compare yourself. Now you feel inadequate. But the thing is you see that photo, What you don’t see is the other things going on in their life outside of that one image. There’s a good chance you don’t even know their background, full story or personally struggles they face. All you see is a highlight reel.
2. You may share similar talents and interest with someone else or think too many people are already doing what you do. Maybe it intimidate you. Maybe it feels like a threat. Then you revert to so feeling like doing your thing is pointless. That’s never the mind set you want to end up in because it keeps you from staying in your own lane. By no means are we to look like anyone else. Work what you do in the unique way nobody else can. Other people’s succeeding doesn’t mean we are failing.
Christine Cane once said: ” My concern is that our generation will miss its destiny because they are too busy scrolling through everyone else’s”
3. Our self-worth doesn’t come from the perception of how people see us, but how God sees us. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the social media comparison. Those distractions are things that don’t even truly matter. The truth is: you’re a purposed and deeply loved. Looking at someone else through a screen should have no part in defining you.
4. I may step on toes with this one. But I believe comparison can come from a place of selfishness. What I mean is the focus can turn into “all about me” which takes away from being truly happy for others. I saw a quote the other day that said: “Cheer for people. There is enough sun for everyone.” But sometimes jealousy doesn’t like the sun shining on others who are succeeding. You aren’t stopping anyone else’s destiny, so why not choose to: uplift, support and clap for them.
5. Envy makes the heart sick and jealousy is cancer to the bones. We aren’t made to wish what others have, but to be thankful and find our identity in Christ.
In a world full of billions of people there is only one you. That matters. It’s a pretty big deal. You were born at the time you were for a reason. We can’t miss the mark here. When we put Jesus before us our perspective changes. We don’t see others as threats or the use of our gift as being pointless. We just use it. We do what God asks us to do because we see the bigger picture. Comparison is proof that we make it about us and not Him. We are to be building up His kingdom, not our own kingdom.