September 28, 2018
Jealousy, Envy and Comparison: Devotional and Reflection
Jealousy, envy, and comparison are traps that distract you from the work God wants to do in your life. Struggles, I myself have had to conquer many times. I had to reflect on why I’d even do this and look at what God has to say. Ultimately it’s God who gets us through it. I created this devotional and reflection as a tool to help you push past jealousy, envy or comparison you may be facing. Remember you’re not alone in feeling this way. It’s possible to get over it. You don’t have to stay stuck in this unhealthy cycle. Grab a pen and journal so you can follow along in steps provided below.
I want to start out by sharing Proverbs 14:30, “A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body; jealousy is like cancer to the bones.”
I remember coming across that verse when I was at really low point. I realized how true it was because my heart literally felt sick month after month. I thought, what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I shake this off? I wanted a peaceful heart and healthy body, but jealousy, envy and comparison were major things dragging me down.
Maybe you wish you had something about her physical look. Maybe you envy her lifestyle. Maybe you’re jealous of her talents. Maybe she has the guy. There could be so many more maybes here that make you feel like you can’t measure up.
Follow these steps :
Step 1: Admit who you are jealous, envying or comparing yourself to out loud to God. I know it may feel awkward. They do say the first step to overcoming a problem is admitting it.
Step 2: Reflect on why you’re jealous, envying or comparing yourself to this person.
Okay, got it?
I have some news. Jealousy, envy, and comparison will always be a lose-lose situation for you no matter what. God has a call on her life that nobody can do anything about except for her; if she chooses to follow it. If she chooses to go after the call God has on her life wouldn’t you want your sister in Christ to succeed? And if she chooses not to go after that call wouldn’t you still want her to end up going down the right path to succeed?
If we are to be cheering other women on, building them up and hope they live a victories life in Christ Jesus then shouldn’t we start clapping for them rather than rolling our eyes? Whether or not she succeeds, it’s a lose-lose situation for you because her success doesn’t define you. God defines you and has a separate plan for your life.
In Jeremiah 29:11 God is speaking to the people he sent to Babylon. He shares a message of hope that people throughout time can grasp onto. It says. “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
That goes for you and her. But totally separate plans. You need to separate yourself from her in your mind, realizing you both have your own destinies.
“Pay careful attentions to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.” –Galatians 6:4-5
Step 3: Now I want you to take some time to write down 5 good things about her.
Step 4: Pray for her like you’d want to be prayed for.
Okay, so why did I have you do that?
Matthew 5:44 says, “But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!” Now you might be thinking she’s not your enemy and that she doesn’t persecute you. You’ve just had these feelings toward her. If that’s you, know I share this because jealousy, envy and comparison can lead to someone becoming an enemy in your mind really quickly. When you love and pray for that person, you’re overcoming evil with good. You’re fixing your eyes on hoping for goodness and blessings to rain in their life. It keeps you from thinking selfishly.
Challenge: I challenge you to start praying for her when jealousy, envy or comparison sneaks up on you. There is power in praying over her. It helps change your perspective! Maybe even get to know her better. Chances are she faces her own struggles and she’s also pretty cool! I want you to have a peaceful heart and healthy body. Most importantly, put Jesus before yourself. When putting Jesus first, our perspective changes. We don’t see others as threats. We do what He calls us to do because we see there is a bigger picture.
Jealousy, envy and comparison is proof that we are actually making life more about us and not so much Him. We are to be building up His kingdom, not our own kingdom or worrying about what someone else life looks like.
- Her destiny is her destiny and your destiny is your destiny. What she does and who she is doesn’t define you. You’re lives have separate stories and nobody can come between the plan God has for her and the plan God has for you. We are responsible our own walks.
- Remember, it’s about Jesus. We should hope she goes after the calling he has on her life to be a part of building HIS kingdom.
- Pray for her if those negative feelings arise. You’ll be surprised how much prayer can turn your heart around.
- Most important: Cling to what God’s word says and never stop asking him for help.